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\nIn 2011, Andrea Lavinthal<\/a> and Justin Gregory lived in the same building in New York City and met while they were doing laundry\u2014a classic Manhattan meet-cute<\/a>. To learn more about her neighbor, Andrea, PEOPLE’s Editorial Director, Beauty & Style, went straight to a trustworthy source: their doorman. After learning that Justin was straight, single, and employed (he’s a portfolio manager), she left a note on his door with her phone number. \u201cIt took him almost three months to text me,\u201d she says. \u201cAlmost 13 years, seven addresses, two kids, and countless cocktails later, I still have a crush on him.\u201d\n<\/p>\n \nIn January 2023, Justin secured a babysitter and asked Andrea if they could spend some alone time together. After a trip to the mall (“When presented with a childless afternoon with the love of my life, I chose to schlep him to the mall to buy him new jeans!” laughs the bride), he insisted on stopping at the beach for a stroll, noting that it was unseasonably warm outside. He found a remote spot along their path before getting down on one knee to propose<\/a>. “I was so overwhelmed, I got down on two<\/em> knees,” Andrea says. “We were both shocked by how much I cried. I never thought about getting engaged or what a proposal would look or feel like, so when it happened, I was caught off-guard by how emotional it was to see him kneeling down with a ring and hear him say the most beautiful words to me. We celebrated with dinner at Torrisi and he had my whole family come to Greenwich for brunch the next day. It was perfect.”\n<\/p>\n \nThe couple knew they wanted a family-only wedding by the end of the year, so they enlisted help from Andrea\u2019s friend, planner Lauren Schweibold from Madison Events<\/a>, to plan a 17-guest wedding on November 25, 2023. Lauren recommended Graybarns<\/a> in Norwalk, Connecticut, where the couple held a candlelit barn ceremony with Jewish traditions<\/a> and an intimate dinner reception at the venue\u2019s restaurant, Tavern<\/a>. The inspiration for the day’s d\u00e9cor, centered around burgundy blooms, plenty of candles, and simple linens, had a unique source: Andrea and Justin say Guns N\u2019 Roses’ music video for “November Rain” was their starting point.\n<\/p>\n \nTake a look at how they used a moody fall color palette to enhance the vibe of their intimate, family-focused big day in these photographs from Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a>.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAndrea and Justin decided to host their big day at Graybarns, a historic property that was once a textile factory and speakeasy; the venue is located on a bluff overlooking a pond and river. \u201cI considered a few other venues, but after a visit to Graybarns where I met with Olivia Savarese who oversees events, I knew it was the place,\u201d Andrea says.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAndrea\u2014a beauty expert by way of her vocation\u2014worked with makeup artist Daniel Martin<\/a> (the creative responsible for Meghan Markle\u2019s natural big-day beauty look<\/a>!) to create a \u201cduchess\u201d glam vibe; the soft makeup paired perfectly with her wavy hairstyle with extensions, created by Tommy Buckett<\/a>. \u201cI had the best time getting ready with Tommy and Daniel,\u201d Andrea says. \u201cWe laughed and chatted the whole time and they made me feel so beautiful.\u201d\n<\/p>\n \nDaniel turned to one of his favorite products to get Andrea’s complexion (which was already luminous thanks to a mix of pre-wedding facials) ready for the big day. “Daniel prepped me with his signature Tatcha<\/a> Skin Ritual, which he said he does on Meghan Markle, Dakota Johnson, and Michelle Yeoh, among others,” says the bride.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAndrea and her mom made a trip to Kleinfeld Bridal<\/a> during a sample sale, not necessarily expecting to find her wedding dress. \u201cI pictured crazy brides who would trample my mom to get their dream dress, but it was disappointingly civil,\u201d Andrea says.\n<\/p>\n \nAfter trying on the simplest gowns they had, her stylist pulled a strapless column dress from a new collection by Nicole + Felicia<\/a>. \u201cIt was so different from everything I had tried on,\u201d she says. \u201cIt felt like a red carpet dress, but with a bridal twist.\u201d The dress had embellishments on the top and a peek-a-boo detail at the bodice, which\u2014unfortunately\u2014caused the bride some day-of stress. “I had three fittings and by the third one it was perfect and the cut-out detail looked so cool\u2014but for some reason on the wedding day, it kept bunching up under the bust and apparently everyone was too busy being happy for me to tell me to adjust my dress,” says Andrea. “As a result, I didn\u2019t have a single photo where you can see the dress the way it actually was. I had a retoucher work some magic on a few shots, but not all of them. I\u2019m so bummed because that detail is what made the dress feel so ‘me’ but eventually I\u2019ll get over it. And by ‘eventually’ I\u2019m thinking by our 25th anniversary.”\n<\/p>\n \nAs for her accessories? She opted for white satin pumps from Sarah Flint<\/a> and a custom pearl and crystal veil\u2014made by a Kleinfeld seamstress who’s been with the company for nearly three decades. “At the last fitting, I had her cut it from cathedral length to fingertip for a more modern look,” says the bride. She also wore a mixed shape tennis bracelet and bezel set drop earrings from Serpentine Jewels<\/a>. A bunch of burgundy blooms added a pop of moody color to her bridal ensemble.<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nJustin chose an ivory Todd Snyder<\/a> Italian shawl collar tuxedo with a white silk bow tie and black tuxedo pants for the occasion. He also wore cufflinks\u2014a gift from Andrea he’s treasured for over a decade. The duo shared a first look<\/a> before the ceremony to shake out some of those jitters. \u201cAfter 12 years, it\u2019s nice to know that just the sight of your significant other can make you feel like you\u2019re going to pass out (in a good way!)\u201d Andrea says.\n<\/p>\n \nJustin was blown away by Andrea\u2019s dress, which she managed to keep a secret from him during the planning process.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nThe couple\u2019s children, Saxon and Vaughn, were part of their wedding party\u2014in fact, both kids juggled a few roles. Saxon (who wore a plaid suit jacket from Zara<\/a>) served as the best man, man of honor, and flower boy, while Vaughn (in Janie and Jack<\/a>) held the titles of maid of honor, best woman, and flower girl.\n<\/p>\n \nBefore tying the knot, Andrea and Justin posed for a few portraits\u2014both as a duo and with their kids\u2014with their photographer, Ruby Olivia.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAndrea and Justin\u2019s ceremony took place inside a barn, where a chuppah with trailing burgundy blooms served as the focal point. \u201cThe only directive I gave to Lauren and Jessie Wilson at JW Design<\/a> was \u2018moody fall florals and lots of candles\u2019,\u201d Andrea says. They added clusters of glass hurricanes filled with taupe pillar candles behind the chuppah; they provided a glowing backdrop to the couple’s vows.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> That moment was exactly why I wanted to have a wedding.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n \nSince a single song served as the inspiration for so much of the duo’s big-day design, Andrea and Justin made music a defining part of their ceremony. The couple hired Mark Mollica<\/a> to play guitar and Dylan Connor<\/a> to sing during the service.\n<\/p>\n \nJustin walked down the aisle with his parents to \u201cFields of Gold\u201c by Sting before Saxon and Vaughn made their way down the aisle carrying woven baskets decorated with leaves and pearls and filled with white rose petals. Andrea made her debut on her parents’ arms to \u201cRipple,\u201d one of her favorite Grateful Dead songs. \u201cThat moment was exactly why I wanted to have a wedding,\u201d she says.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAhead of their nuptials, the pair\u2019s officiant interviewed them for three hours to craft a personalized ceremony script and intentional vows<\/a>. \u201cOne of the best moments of the ceremony was when Saxon, who is seven, recited the Dr. Seuss quote: \u2018We are all a little weird and life is a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love,\u2019\u201d Andrea says. They celebrated back down the aisle\u2014as husband and wife!\u2014to the Bee Gees’ \u201cIslands in the Stream.\u201d\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAt the couple\u2019s cocktail hour, they served a signature drink<\/a>\u2014regular and<\/em> spicy margaritas. Along with a raw bar, flatbreads and assorted cheeses and meats were offered to guests. Before the interlude was over, Andrea surprised Justin by having their musicians play a rendition of Bobby Brown\u2019s \u201cEvery Little Step.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s an inside joke and I knew that would make him laugh,\u201d the bride says. \u201cEveryone ended up joining us on the dance floor for it and it was such a fun moment.\u201d\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nThe intimate reception took place in a private room at the Tavern at Graybarns. There, an 18-foot-long dining table was dressed in a quilted floor-length linen. The tablescape incorporated glass hurricanes with taper candles and small arrangements of seasonal flowers, like burgundy ranunculus, pink astilbe, red hellebores and astrantia, cream spray roses, blush roses, and eucalyptus. Place settings featured gold foil trimmed cards set on top of burgundy napkins; fresh flowers were placed on top of each menu.\n<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> \nAndrea\u2014who changed into a jacket, trouser, and bra set from Favorite Daughter for the second half of the event\u2014and Justin served a family-style dinner consisting of branzino, roasted duck breast, prime bone-in ribeye, and cacio e pepe pasta; during the meal, they listened to heartfelt speeches from some of their closest loved ones.\n<\/p>\n \nBefore dinner began, however, they shared their first dance to Neil Young\u2019s \u201cHarvest Moon,\u201d a moment Andrea cites as a big-day highlight. \u201cI hadn\u2019t planned for the kids to join us, but as soon as Justin and I started dancing, Saxon and Vaughn started dancing together, too,\u201d Andrea remembers. \u201cIt was such a sweet moment that I\u2019ll never forget.”<\/p>\n Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n <\/span> Photo by Ruby Olivia Photography<\/a><\/p>\n
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