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How To Plan A Chinese Wedding Tea Ceremony

As an important tradition in Chinese weddings and culture, the wedding tea ceremony is an opportunity for the newlyweds to show respect for their elders, and a chance for their family to share their acceptance of the marriage in return. It is usually conducted on the day of the wedding itself and is a significant and meaningfully part of the day. It sees the bride and groom serve tea to their parents, in-laws and often other family members and symbolizes the union of two families. The ceremony typically takes place within the family homes and the couple are usually dressed in traditional wedding garments, with on hand assistance typically from the bridesmaids. In most cases the parents and the in-laws are the main recipients, but sometimes grandparents, aunts and uncles are included too. It is usually an intimate, close family only affair.

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Before we go into the details of ‘how’ to plan a Chinese wedding ceremony, it’s important to understand the ‘why’ and the reasons for the ceremony coming to be.

The tradition goes as far back as the Tang Dynasty in China (618 – 907), with tea seen to represent faithfulness. According to ‘Seven Revisions’ by Chinese writer Ying Lang (1487 – 1566) “the tea plant cannot be transplanted, and after transplantation, it shall not live. When a woman marries and brings tea as part of her dowry, we see she is loyal to one”.

In modern times it still symbolizes this, but is also crucially seen as a signifier of both families welcoming the bride and groom into the fold. It also provides an opportunity for the couple to express their gratitude and form a promise that they will continue to respect their elders henceforth.

敬茶是中式婚禮中不可或缺的傳統儀式。 藉着敬茶,新人向父母及長輩表達敬意


Tea Ceremony Package

Chinese Wedding

Celebrate your wedding with family

  • Tea ceremony space rental (* base on 20 people per hour)
  • Tea (red dates, lotus seeds)
  • A pair of red kneeling pads
  • Selected decorated floral pillars set
  • Silk floral bouquet and boutonniere

Crystal Chiavari Chairs & Tables For a more traditional occasion, fully decorated with vintage furniture. Hire of the Espace decorated private studio. Designed backdrops with flower arrangements


中式敬茶儀式套餐 內容包括:

  • 儀式主持人
  • 紅跪墊一對
  • 婚嫁茶壺、茶杯及托盤
  • 婚嫁紙茶杯
  • 鐵觀音或普洱茶葉
  • 原粒蓮子及有核紅棗
  • 囍字窗貼


Chinese Engagement Tea Ceremony

The Chinese tea ceremony is an intimate occasion for a traditional Chinese wedding. At Espace, we will arrange a comfortable sofa set and chairs to be placed in the sophisticated venue you have handpicked. From exquisite loose-leaf tea to an elegant tea set, these little important details will be taken care of by our staff. On this special day, focus on looking fabulous, playing respects to your parents and elderlies and creating lifelong memories.


  • Bridal Bouquet
  • Stage Backdrop and Flower Stands
  • Tea (red dates, lotus seeds)
  • Background Music
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1. How to plan a wedding tea ceremony

Speak to your families about who you plan to invite

Usually the only attendees to the wedding tea ceremony are the couple, their parents and other important family members including grandparents and aunts and uncles. In addition to this, the bridal party is often in attendance to help with making the tea and washing up.

2. Choose your location 

Traditionally the wedding tea ceremonies take place in the family home, with one home visited after another. Typically the tea ceremony for the bride’s family happens in the morning, with the groom and groomsmen coming to collect her to hold the other tea ceremony at his family home. It’s recommended to do both visits all in one, go but the location can be flexible if required, for example if you’re hosting a lunch within a wedding venue.

3. Timing of the ceremony 

The tea ceremony typically takes place on the day of the wedding, and as mentioned before, in the earlier part of the day. There is no particular length of time that the tea ceremony needs to be, however it’s important to not rush proceedings.

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Chinese Wedding Tea Ceremony Package
Chinese Wedding Tea Ceremony Supplies

4. General etiquette 

When serving the tea, the bride and groom should first face the relative of their gender. The father of the groom is then served by the groom and the bride thereafter. The mother of the groom is served by the groom, and shortly after the bride. This order is also used for grandparents and other relatives too. During the process of physically serving the tea, you should address the family member you are serving in kinship terms, pass the the teacup with both hands and when serving say “please drink the tea”. Traditionally both bride and groom kneel whilst doing so, with the option of touching their head to the ground to show ultimate respect.

When it comes to kneeling, some couples might only choose to kneel to serve their parents and in-laws and some may choose to not do it altogether. This is usually something that is spoken to family about prior to the ceremony, however if your parents or in-laws request that you do kneel, then it can be a tricky one to say no to.

5. Types of tea to use 

There are no real rules on what tea should be served, and is entirely down to personal preference. However additions are often added to the tea for symbolism, including red dates (for luck), lotus seeds (for arrival of children) and lily. In China, the name for lily rhymes with a phrase that means marriage longevity, hence the reason for its addition to the teacup.

6. Chinaware and cushions 

The Chinaware and kneeling cushions are usually purchased by the bride’s family and are Chinese in style, typically featuring the ‘double happiness’ Chinese character that symbolizes weddings on them. As suggested, the cushions are for family members to comfortably kneel on.

7. After the tea ceremony 

Once the tea ceremony has been completed, parents usually give their wise words to the couple and gift them with a Lai See – a red envelope containing money, a symbol of luck and good fortune. The groom’s parents will usually gift the bride gold jewelry, for example the ‘dragon and phoenix badges’ that are a traditional wedding accessory. It’s traditional that the bride must put these on straight away, in order to not offend or give off the impression she doesn’t like them.

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